Yesterday my social media was flooded with people sharing their personal stories of mental health for #bellletstalk. It was so great to see so many people finding the strength and sharing their truth. If you have been following my own page, you know that I am very vocal about my own personal journey with grief and anxiety. I have spoken out about my pregnancy losses and how those losses furthered my anxiety in subsequent pregnancies and postpartum with my daughter. I have also written about how anxiety still lingers in my mind on a daily basis and how I strive to manage it. Some people might wonder, as a doula and a lifecoach, why do I share my own challenges? Shouldn’t a person who has made a career supporting others have their own life “together”? I am so vocal about my struggles for so many reasons.
The number one reason I share my own darkness is so that others can begin to see their light in my reflection. I truly believe that we heal when we have people by our side who truly get it. And I get it. I get how pregnancy loss leaves a much deeper impact then you could have ever imagined. I get that pregnancy after loss is filled with worry and concern; and also the strongest of love. I get that even years after you have lost a wanted pregnancy, the hopes and dreams that you carried with it are forever entangled in your heart. They lie heavily in the wrinkles of your skin; siting deeply within each muscle. The loss becomes an intimate part of you. A part of you that you wouldn’t necessarily want to change, but a part of you that you need to talk about. I have found that talking about my struggles has not weakened me in the eyes of my friends or clients. It has in fact strengthened our connection. I hear myself in their words and they see themselves in the hope that I can now wear proudly. Talking about our darkness, our mental health, our story does NOT weaken us. It makes us stronger.
So I thank every single one of you who bravely shared their stories yesterday. I encourage you to continue to speak loudly, grounded in your truth. The more we talk, the stronger we become. If you are ready to start talking, lets connect. Your story matters. Your voice matters. YOU matter.
- My Babies are Real Even if You Can’t See Them
This is was a post that I wrote for Still Standing Magazine. You can see the original here. A copy of that article is shown below: “Do you see it Mom?’ my Rainbow daughter asked me one morning. “See what”? I replied, half awake “The beautiful colored lights all around us” Curiously, I looked around […][read more]
- Episode 11 with Erica M Mcafee
This article originally appeared at Erica’s web site here. I have duplicated the article below for your convenience. https://www.ericammcafee.com/podcast/ep11 In today’s episode Aditi Loveridge, shares her Pregnancy Loss Story and how healing tools helped her rediscover trust and inner power, so she could engage in life again. After losing her first two pregnancies, she was […][read more]
- Learning to Trust After Loss
This article originally appeared in Birthing Magazine (Summary/Fall 2014). To download the original article as a PDF, click here. The entire article has been provided below for your reading: NOTE TO READERS: THIS STORY DISCUSSES INFANT LOSS In the evening of October 2, 2012, I went into labour. My contractions were light in the […][read more]
- We Are Mothers – A Visual Project showing Connection
I am honoured to have been a part of this project. The visual project shows the power in connection and in sharing our stories. Having other women who can relate to your experience of loss is truly healing. Each story that was shared and each tear that was shed connected us. It was a deep reminder that.We are not alone. And no matter...[read more]