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You CAN be happy again

After I had my second loss, I really did not think I would ever smile again. Things that once made me happy, left me feeling empty. A part of me was missing and I was certain that happiness was a distant memory.

It has been 6 years and I can now tell you the truth…I AM happy again. Happiness did not find me over night, and there are still days that I don’t feel it as strongly, but I AM happy.

The truth is, losing a baby is hard. It is down right devastating. But with some help, inner reflection, and time to grieve, you CAN and WILL be happy again.

This, I know to be true.

You WILL be different

The day after I left the hospital from my ectopic pregnancy loss, I knew I was different. I was a more guarded, fearful and anxious woman than before; I was scared that I had changed for the worse.

Losing a baby is life changing and you are undeniably changed. But I can tell you this…you WILL be different, but it doesn’t have to be for the worse. Actually, my pregnancy losses have forced me to go within, dig deep and become incredibly self aware. I have learned my triggers, rediscovered my strength, and feel a self love I never known before.  I have also learned to be IN my life, not just living it.

I can say without any doubt, that I would not have done the self work that I have done, had I not experienced baby loss.  I can honestly say, I am a much more compassionate, empathetic and present woman today because of it.

So the truth is,  you WILL be different but different does not equal worse.

There IS life after loss

In the months that followed my pregnancy loss, I felt like I was living but I was not alive. When you lose a baby, it is hard to imagine that there is life beyond your loss.

As time has gone by, I am able to enjoy the little things in life again. Not only just enjoy them, but I can fully engage in my life again.

I can wholeheartedly say that there IS life after loss. Your life will be different, just as you will be, but there is life. Just like in nature–after a deep freeze, the sun does come out again. Soon, the trees and flowers begin to emerge, and before you realize it, there is beauty all around you.

You will feel the warmth of the sun again. You will smell the flowers. You will find the beauty in and around you.

I can say, without any doubt, that you WILL live again.

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